How was it when you first found out that you're going to be a dad? It must be surreal. You're overwhelmed with emotions, like your heart is going to burst with joy.
Being a father is the beginning of a major change in a man's life, but also remember that the struggles of being a parent are quite real. So, how can you survive as a new dad?
Here are a few things to remember to survive the early stages of fatherhood:
#1: It's Okay to Make Mistakes
Some dads are actually unprepared after their wife's pregnancy. Parenting is not an easy task and making common errors is okay. All you have to do is focus on your child and identify and learn from your mistakes as you go along. There may be some inconsistencies, but remember you can always do better next time.
#2: Stay Calm
Never pressure yourself about parenthood. It is a struggle, but you don't need to worry and stress yourself all the time. It's a lifelong journey but it is worth it.
#3: Stay Informed and Ask Questions
Lots of research can help you find the answers about your confusion in dealing with newborns. New moms are just barely learning as well, so you can do the research for her about the things you both don't know about. Ask your doctor if you're not sure instead of always checking WebMD articles. Ask your own parents or friends who have kids of their own.
#4: Join Dad Clubs
Learn and be inspired from other dads by getting involved in various activities. Discussing with other dads about your worries or concerns about parenthood is okay. It's a great way to share ideas and tips, such as what cartoons to play for your child, sleep schedules, etc. Connecting with other dads is a great way to organize play groups, too.
#5: Lend a hand
Imagine your wife carrying your child for 9 months; sounds like a lot of hardwork, right? Always remember that parenting is hard, so brainstorming with your partner is very helpful when dealing with things about your child. Always ask your partner about the things you can do to help -- be it determining the schedule on who gets to rest and sleep more on a given day or who will put baby to sleep at 3 in the morning. It happens but it gets better.
#6: Always Remember: Things Will Be Fine
Be easy on yourself - patience is the path to parenting. You and your partner just need a strong bond and both of you will benefit from it. Fatherhood is a fun and a personal experience, so, relax, because your child will just be fine.